Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Practically Grown Up...........

"I've been afraid of changing
'Cause I, I've built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I'm getting older too oh yes
I'm getting older too"

We hit a new mile stone this past weekend in our house. 

**** My daughter went on her first date!!"****

And I use the term "date" very loosely. It was more like we picked up her friend (we is ALL of us, the whole family, even her two little brats, um, I mean brothers), we went to a restaurant where we all sat together and ended the evening walking around Target. 

Good times. 

We did take some heat for this. Many were very opinionated about my daughter and "boyfriend". Very. 

Oh well. That's all I can say about this. Oh well. 

Emma is such a sweet girl. She is so mature beyond her years. Sometimes to the point she has been called immature. Let me explain. People have actually told me that Emma probably has not hit her teenage years yet. That she is not acting like a typical teenager. And then these people describe in detail all the crappy things their teenager does.  Maybe Emma hasn't hit that phase yet, maybe she never will. I know plenty of amazing teens who never acted like an idiot during those years.

Emma is such a huge blessing to us. She is super smart, in advanced classes. She reads like no one you'll ever meet. She helps out around the house every single day. Never complains. even when I give her crap jobs or too many jobs. She watches her brothers almost everyday with no pay. She doesn't complain. She is not picky about fashion. She is seriously happy she just has clothes to wear. She doesn't care at all where her clothes come from. Speaking of clothes, she dresses very nicely. She does not show things a 13 year old girl is supposed to show. She rarely gives me attitude. She doesn't fight with me. She is so respectful it makes me wonder how I got that lucky. She is just a good girl. The only complaint I have about my daughter is that her room is typically a mess. And that's according to my standards so I really have no idea if it really is a mess or not. Oh, and sometimes I catch her sneaking candy or cans of pop. 

On the rare occasion she does get in trouble it's never that bad and her typical punishment is us taking away her books and her Kindle. Yes, we take away her reading material. 

(side note - one time Emma was out of books to read so she started reading the Bible. She started at page 1 and kept going. When she got to the New Testament she told me she was glad because the Old Testament was boring. hahahahaha - do ya see what I mean, she is pretty much awesome)

One of the biggest factors in our decision to let her go on a "date" with him is the fact she talks to us. She comes to me all the time to talk about pretty much everything. She is very honest when I ask her questions and vice versa. She feels comfortable enough with me to talk to me about anything. 

Emma is wise beyond her years. Right now she is the opposite of a snotty teenager and I'm ok with that. I really am. 

If Emma was a known liar or a sneak or if she had bad grades or bad influences, this whole situation might have a different outcome. But given her character, we decided to go ahead with this. 

Emma makes good decisions. Emma has great friends. She gets awesome grades. She loves Jesus. So if she comes to me asking if her boyfriend can come to dinner with us, well, the answer is yes. 

One day I hope she reads this blog post to know exactly how I felt about her as a young teenager. And I am sending some serious prayers that I don't ever have to write about her being a snotty teenager in a few short years.

Monday, February 16, 2015

Little bit of Monday Randomness and some introductions.....

Since my last couple posts have been so heavy I am going to lighten it up a bit.

How about an introduction and some complete randomness? Sounds good to me!

My name is Kelly.

Yup. That's me. Well, not really. I used a cool app with a super cool filter. And I am not wearing my glasses, but darn it, I just really like this picture!

Middle name is Jean **Fun fact - my mother also has the same middle name!**

Me and the hubby. Can you believe in May (May 28th to be exact) we are celebrating our 10 year anniversary?? It's a little insane. Matthew is a great man who truly takes care of us. 

Birthday - August 2, 1980. And yes, you are correct, I did just celebrate my half birthday on February 2nd **Fun fact - February 2nd is my sister in laws birthday!! Always a reason to celebrate!**
Another fun fact - I turn 35 this year!! Time for my baseline mammogram!!!! Woohoo!!!**

My husband has been my rock over these past 10 years. He has seen me at so many lows and helped pull me up. He is constantly stepping up to help our family. I am truly amazed that God blessed me with him.

I was born in Akron, OH to my mom and dad **Fun fact, my mom is my mom and my dad is my dad**

I have one brother and one sister. They are twins. And their birthday is July 31, 1982. (You can probably guess that birthday were always fun because we usually had something combined on August 1st for all 3 of us, however, this is explains my desperate need to try and have my kids celebrate birthdays separately) My sister lives here in Ohio but my brother jumped shipped and moved to Florida many moons ago **Fun fact - My brother and sister really act nothing alike or even look alike too much anymore**

 I have 3 of the most beautiful and crazy kids you'll ever meet. No, for real. They are nuts. Just like their momma. **Fun fact - everyone says my daughter is a spitting image of me and I think that's totally awesome (as long as she doesn't act like me, I'm sort of an ass)

Emma (almost 13!)

Chase - 8

Landon - 9

The family!

And now for some randomness.........

*at night when I am trying to sleep I write so many blog posts in my head but by morning they are all gone. Or I have the concept but forgot all the witty things I was going to say.

*I am an avid crumb hater. Like seriously HATE crumbs. Ask my kids and husband. They will tell you I am CRUMB CRAZY! Sure, the sink can be full of dishes and the bathrooms can reek of little boy pee, but heaven forbid there is a single crumb anywhere in the house. I will lose it. Like lose it. No Joke.

*When I am going through something big like let's say addiction, troubles, spiritual warfare, pretty much anything, I need to say it out loud to someone, usually more than one person. Now this might seem nuts to you but hear me out. Once I speak my troubles to someone, it is out there. There is no taking it back. There is no more hiding the issue. I will be held accountable. As much as it hurts or angers me to tell people such personal things, I have to. I just do.
I'm not saying this is right or wrong and there are definitely repercussions to this. I have lost so many people in my life because of this. I have been told some harsh truths. And it hurts. But in the end by me speaking out loud and even writing about it lets me be held accountable. My friends will come up to me or text me to see how an issue is going.
Also, another reason I do this is because I don't feel like I need to be "hiding" anything. I am who I am. And if you can't deal with it, I'm sorry. I am not going to hide who I am to please someone else no more. Honesty has for sure taken over my life. Again, some people are scared of this. I literally scare people off. They can't handle it. It scares them. On the flip side, my honesty gives others permission to be honest too. And I love it. I love real people. I love the truth. I am scared of the truth but it is always necessary.

* I watch Gilmore Girls every single day. Yes. I am crazy GG groupie. I just can't get enough!!


* I watch Roseanne almost as much as I watch GG. Probably 5 out of 7 days. I love the family dynamic. I love the interactions. I love how real the show is.

And that's it folks.......... Enjoy my blog. I am going to try really hard to start writing more.

Love you all!